Something to mark today.
Originally published in my old blog back in June 2009, a year after my dad passed
Note: The photo I took of the bananas were lost 🙁
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You might be wondering why a photo of bananas accompanies this post, it’s all due to a poignant encounter yesterday afternoon that resonated as I was also reminded that it’s Father’s Day weekend.
I had wished I had my camera with me when I saw a two-year old boy trying to push his father’s wooden cart laden with bananas for sale; a show of wanting to help out perhaps. Without breathing a word, the father, seeing what his son — who was almost in tears when he realised he’s unable to — was trying to do, simply picked him up and carried him on one arm then continued to push the heavy cart with his free hand.
The scenario had almost brought tears to my eyes for it encapsulates what most fathers would do for their children. They make room for these helpless and innocent creatures in their lives, regardless of how difficult and taxing it can be. Fathering a child can trigger acts of selflessness in degrees you didn’t think possible.
Shortly after, I then saw another father who was out to deliver packs of laundered clothes in a pedicab. His son was sitting with the clothes, holding the paper which I guess contains the list of addresses where the clothes are headed. A child wanting to spend time with his father while he works simply because he thinks that it’s cool, whatever it is.
A wave of familiarity washed over me. I knew the feeling of wanting to be part of my father’s life. Watching him work or drive a car. Wanting to go wherever he’d go. Trying to do what he’s doing then looking up expectantly for a word of praise or even a hint of a smile or acknowledgement in his eyes, seemingly telling me that yes, he had seen my effort and was proud of me regardless of the outcome.
Then I found myself wondering, will their respective families celebrate them being fathers this Sunday? Are they aware of the importance to set aside a day to appreciate them and who they are to the children?
I really can’t say that a father’s love is greater than that of the mother’s. Roles of fathers and mothers in a child’s life complements. One can nurture, support and encourage, and the other can discipline, instruct and protect. They both just affect their children differently.
While a child can find the heart and inspiration in life from mothers, they can find the strength and will to live a good one from a father’s love.
So, I’m taking this opportunity to especially appreciate all the fathers. You have been given an important role in a child’s life, a responsibility that you alone can fully fathom and fulfil. Know that all your hard work and sacrifices did not go unnoticed. In your child’s eyes, you are truly the best father one can ever have.
As a daughter, I am especially grateful for the love that only a father can give. The kind that always protects, always trusts, always hopes and always perseveres. The love that never fails. No man will ever love me the way he did.
White Roses for Dad